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1、實(shí)用三招讓你成為社交高手:不要沒話找話Iknowyoucanthinkofatimewhenyouwerenetworkingandaverysmiley,ambitiousattendeecameupandshookyourhand,eagerlyofferingtheirbusinesscardanda20minutespielofwhattheydo.Nomatterwhattheirlineofwork,you’reinstantaneouslyboredjustbecauseofhowtheystartedtheconversation.That’
2、sbecausenobodyactuallyenjoyslisteningtootherstalkaboutthemselves.Certainlynotalongramblewithoutaninvitation.想象一下,在一次社交活動(dòng)中,一個(gè)笑容燦爛,有雄心的參與者過來跟你握手,接著熱心地遞給你名片,同時(shí)針對(duì)他的工作進(jìn)行了20分鐘的高談闊論。不管他們從事什么行業(yè),你會(huì)立刻覺得反感,僅僅由于他們搭訕的方式。實(shí)際上,那是因?yàn)闆]有人喜歡聽對(duì)方談?wù)撍麄冏约?。?dāng)然,沒有邀請(qǐng)函的一次漫游除外。Buteventhoughyoumightbeannoyedbythei
3、dea,canyoualsorememberatimewhenyouwereatasimilareventandthenendedupbeingthatperson?但即使你可能被這件事打擾了,可你也許會(huì)想起,某次,你也處于類似的事件中,而結(jié)果你就是那個(gè)“參與者”?Maybeithappenedbecauseyouactuallythinkwhatyoudoisinterestingtoeveryoneoryouwerenervousaboutwhatyoushouldbedoinginthatenvironmentandyouwerejusttryingt
4、ofillconversation.也許類似情況發(fā)生過,由于你認(rèn)為,你所做的對(duì)每個(gè)人來說是件有趣味的事,或者是你在那種場合下,對(duì)自己該怎樣做感到很緊張,僅僅是盡量做到有話可說。Butdoingthisishowyouendupfurtherbackfromwhereyoustarted.但這樣做恰恰會(huì)導(dǎo)致最終結(jié)果更背離你的初衷。Whenyouapproachtheideaofnetworkingasa‘doordie’situation,you’regoingtogetnothing(especiallyvaluablecontacts)outofit.In
5、aworldfullofsocialmediageneratedconversation,“buildingrelationships”isoneofthebiggestbuzzphrases—andwithgoodreason.You’renotgoingtoberememberedunlessyou’veprovidedvalue.Andblabberingonandontogrowawarenessofwhatyoudoprofessionallyandhowyoucanbehiredisn’tvaluable.Youneedtogoaboveandb
6、eyondtobedifferentthaneveryoneelsebytailoringtheconversationtoalwaysbenefitothers.Thesestepswillhelpyoubecomethemostinterestingpersonintheroom(evenifyou’reanintrovert)andgrowastrongandvaluablenetworkofpeople:當(dāng)你處于“決一死戰(zhàn)”的社交情形時(shí),你從中什么也得不到(特別是有價(jià)值的信息)。在這個(gè)以談話交流作為社交媒介的世界里,“建立社交網(wǎng)絡(luò)”是最熱門的詞匯,且
7、有足夠的理由那樣做。你不會(huì)被人記住,除非你給了他們好處。胡扯你專業(yè)意識(shí)的提升和你如何能被雇傭,是毫無價(jià)值的。如果你要出席一場社交活動(dòng),應(yīng)該追求從中獲利的最大化。你需要超越自己,做到與眾不同,還要精簡談話內(nèi)容從而獲益。這將使你在特定空間內(nèi)成為最有魅力的人(即使你是性格內(nèi)向的人),并使你變成一個(gè)強(qiáng)大而有價(jià)值的社交達(dá)人:1.Bepickyaboutgivingoutbusinesscards.WhensomeoneapproachesmewithabusinesscardinmyhandbeforeIcanevenintroducemyself,they’real
8、readydismissedassomeoneIwo